I Disagree And You’re A Smelly Butthead :-P


Those of you who are friends with me on Facebook may have noticed my status earlier today. Sometimes things get a little overwhelming for me and I just want to curl up in a little ball and hide. Between the new Ben Radford/Rebecca Watson kerfluffle and the DJ Grothe/Greta Christina thing, I’d had enough for one day.

The disagreements themselves were one thing. Everyone has opinions and the fact that they differ simply means that those people have different ideas. This is a good thing. As was pointed out to me, it means our community isn’t full of cultish automatons.

The comments that some people have made after said opinions were voiced is something else totally different. Personally, I find it frightening and intimidating when I read threats of violence and misogynistic words leveled against another woman that I have a passing acquaintance with. I’m a female blogger and skeptic too so, to my mind, I could also be targeted by these same people simply because I share the same anatomy. That’s not an unreasonable concern. I’ve already received a death threat by Mabus (Yeah, I know…who hasn’t?). But the point is that when people stoop to that level, it makes me feel unsafe, as though, if I dare to voice my own ideas, I will be treated the same way.

Fortunately I have good friends who remind me almost daily that all men are not like that. Matt Lowry, who writes for me at the JREF blog, wrote an excellent post about this on his blog, The Skeptical Teacher.  I fully support his new project, “More Than Men” and urge you to do the same.

My other friend, Gregory ‘Gerg’ Perrine of the Skeptic Wire Podcast, had the greatest response to my status update. When I explained why I felt like a kid whose parents were divorcing (ie: infighting, name calling, etc) he posted the following:

OH YEAH!?!?! WELL SCREW YOU TOO!!! MY ALL CAPS SHOWS JUST HOW SMART I MUST BE, HOW MUCH I DISAGREE WITH YOU, AND HOW STUPID I THINK YOU ARE PERSON-I-JUST-MET-ON-THE-INTERNET!!! ANYONE WHO DISAGREES WITH ME DESERVES TO BE THREATENED WITH HORRIBLE THINGS YOU WOULD NEVER, EVER SAY IN PERSON!!! HA, I WIN THE ARGUMENT!!! SO THERE!!!

And this is why Gerg is my hero of the week. Honestly I laughed so hard I was sneezing my comfort food of choice – caramel popcorn. Gerg said that this makes an excellent blog comment “safe word” when things have gotten out of hand. I couldn’t agree more. It’s an excellent tension breaker.

So to all you doo-doo heads out there who think it’s okay to call a woman a bitch or cunt because you disagree with her, I say :-P~~~~~

3 Comments

  1. sgerbic said,

    January 5, 2012 at 9:40 pm

    Oh no not another one. Again people are pissing on each other instead of fighting the enemy.

    I hadn’t heard about The D.J. and Christina thing, but read all about the Radford/Watson mess. I was very very sad to see the name calling from the Watson camp. Just sickening.

    What really interested me was that I learned from your blog that Greg Perrine is on Skeptic Wire. I KNOW Greg and I listen to Skeptic Wire, but didn’t put two and two together. Thanks for the enlightenment.

    Susan

  2. Greg Perrine said,

    January 5, 2012 at 10:57 pm

    The internet comment-threat-echo-chamber is a scary place. Even for those of us with non-female genital equipment. Anonymity is obviously a double-edged sword. I am proud to know SO many amazing men, women, and everyone in between within the skeptic/atheist community.

    The bright side of these kerfuffles is that it brings important issues to the forefront. Elevatorgate SUCKED, but it started conversations about diversity, sexism, and etiquette. Thankfully strong people like Watson were able to continue past it. I just really feel sorry for ‘newcomers’ like the young lady on Reddit and young men who join in on the comment threads and think that’s acceptable behavior. I choose to look on the bring side and believe that 99% of the community can learn something from these situations and make the movement better in the long run.

    So learn from the (paraphrased) homeland security mantra: If you see someone trolling on the internet, say something. Just be the better person.

    PS: I was never threatened by Mabus. I and my fellow podcasters Donna & Gary, (thanks for the shout out, btw) consider that a great personal and professional insult. With him getting treatment we’ll never know if we’ve “made it” in the skeptical world. :)

  3. rob@lookatthestateofthat.com said,

    January 6, 2012 at 12:24 pm

    I still think you’re great.


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